I am so sorry. I, myself, had a bad divorce a few years ago and went through a few attorneys. The old saying holds true, "If you think an expert is expensive, try hiring an amateur."
After months of frustrations, I asked court reporters and clerks at the courthouse on who they observed in the courtroom was good. In addition, I did research on who celebrities used. They'd only hiring the best right?
I would suggest hiring a certified family law attorney because I think they're more knowledgeable since they only practice in that area.
Here are some of the top firms, I feel, after my research a few years ago:
Adelman & Seide, LLP
Well-known certified specialists who have represented celebrities. I was told they are very sharp and aggressive.
Leeds Wender & Rosenfeld, LLP
Well known firm with celebrity clients. Not sure if they're certified though. Can't find website.
Nachsin & Weston, LLP
Publicized celebrity attorney who represented baseball player Barry Bonds. Didn't check and see if they're certified.
Trope and Trope
Another well-known firm who started the non-profit Harriett Buhai center and represented Britney Spears. I heard they are also sharp and certified.
I don't want to seem biased a recommend my attorney. I hope this helped and great luck on a resolution. I know what you're going through.